आयुष्य

चाललाय प्रवास..

कुठे कोणत्या दिशेने किती वेगाने..

कदाचित गणित नसेल मांडलेलं..

पण गणित मांडलं नाही म्हणून प्रवास चुकत नाही..

समोरच काही दिसत नाही म्हणून थांबता येत नाही..

गणित मांडाव म्हणतात..

म्हणजे मिळेल एक दिशा..

पण सगळेच parameters आधीपासून माहित असत नाही..

constants सुद्धा कधी variables होतील सांगता येत नाही..

statistics चे theorems मग आठवतात..

Random variables सुचायला लागतात..

शिकालेले सगळीच तत्वं लागू होतीलच असं नाही..

theorems/ exceptions सगळं मांडू शकतील असंही नाही..

निर्णय सुद्धा घ्यावे लागतात..

कधी खूप सोपे तर कधी अगदी कठोर..

decision making ची तत्वं लागू होतातच असं नाही..

पण म्हणून निर्णय घेणारच नाही असही करता येत नाही..

आयुष्य fair नाहीये..

हे काही बरोबर नाहीये..

प्रत्येक वेळी गोष्टी logical असतील असं नाही..

पण म्हणून त्या चुकीच्या असतील असंही नाही..

माझा वेग ताशी सत्तर..

मला लागतील तास दोन..

रस्ता सरळ असेलंच  ह्याची हमी नाही..

मजा सरळ रस्त्यावरच येते असं तर त्याहून नाही..

खूप झालं आता कंटाळा आला..

काय हे मी कुठे पोचतही नाहीये..

अर्ध्यात प्रवास सोडता येईलच असं नाही..

पण उरलेला प्रवास पूर्ण होईल असंही नाही..

खरच म्हटलंय कुणीतरी..

हा प्रवास आहे अज्ञाताकडे..

लांबचा पल्ला गाठायचा म्हणून धावूनही चालत नाही..

बरंच पुढे आलो म्हणून थांबूनही चालत नाही..

Sunday filled with dreams

Truly had a sunday filled with dreams!! 
Firstly, Today both my favorite authors posted about "dreams" on their walls..What a great start for Sunday morning. Early in the morning, Robin Sharma wrote 
"i just thought this and wanted to share it immediately with you: if we were living our dreams, we wouldn't have any dreams. And where's the fun in that? What do you think?"
and I started thinking. This is a very different perspective to look at dreams. It is human nature to chase something new, once we get whatever we want. Sometimes we do not even realize that we have achieved the goal as till then we are running behind a new goal. Aren't we forgetting to celebrate that small win? 


Then after some time, Paulo Coelho posted in his Sunday reading about "killing our dreams".. Completely contradictory ideas on one single Sunday morning. He discussed three symptoms of killing dreams..
1. Lack of time : Busiest people have enough time to do everything!!
2. Certainties : We don't see life as adventure.
3. Peace : leaving life like sunday afternoon..


As we all are aware of Paulo Coelho's style of artistic style of writing, it will be a good read. Here is the link.
http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2010/07/31/3-min-reading-killing-your-dreams/


Now the third dream thing of the day,
My friend called and shared his dreams with me!! 


The fourth dream thing
I was walking to the pool, and somebody was listening to a nice song "Dreams come true, they do!!"


WOW!! Had a great dreamy Sunday.. At the end of the day I am completely into the DREAM MODE!!

APPEARANCE

          The title seem vague right? Today I went for a very long walk with a dear friend of mine. While walking we were discussing certain issues related to our lives. She has a very unique attitude towards life. I don't remember how, but the topic of appearance came up!! We were discussing about people and their first judgement through a photograph..
           I totally feel that if you are judging a person just by the way he/she looks, you are making a mistake. I know the face/eyes depict certain characteristics like decency, but not always!! What if the person who took the photograph, couldn't do a good job??
          Then she gave me an example of a book. Unless the cover or name is not attractive, you won't even go closer to that book. Then you read the back page. Then you decide whether you want to or not want to buy it.You might not even like the book once you start reading, but atleast you started the reading with the book!
          The discussion then lead to marketing, packaging and stuff. I remember a friend of mine always says, "Its all about packaging". I do not agree with him at all. Its not about packaging always, I won't deny that that there is a certain amount of packaging or presentation necessary. But it is not the only packaging.
My mother always says, it is very important that you serve well, whatever you have cooked.But that is not the only important thing. Serving is beautifully is important but that does not mean that you can cook anything. The food needs to be delicious.
           Back to the discussion of the walk. My friend then told me about how her cousin lost a lot of weight to get married. It is a harsh reality that people still give first preference to the looks!! I don't understand how does one base a decision on just looks. Isn't marriage about meeting your soulmate?
I still strongly feel that even we, "the educated people" need to think about it. I am not saying packaging or presentation is important, rather people who know me well will surely say that I will be the one to look into presentation details! What my point is lets not get carried by the presentation, and lets look inside. Lets look deeper..

Being Judgmental..

           I have been thinking about this for quiete a time now.. Isn't it true that we tend to judge a person from the information from internet!! The Orkut profile, facebook profile..I dont understand why do people actually draw conclusions from the Orkut or Facebook profiles(Am I drawing conclusion now??)..We all tend to judge a person from the universities that person went to, the kind of friends he/she has, the photos that are being uploaded, where the person was born and brought up..I hope I have covered atleast 10% of the information available..I really don't deny that the parameters mentioned above give some judgement of "the person"..But I want to say that it is just 10-15% of his /her life..We just forget that "the person" is more than information available..I think meeting someone in person is way different from judging them from the information available..Many times we tend to judge the person and then just lose a great opportunity to meet him/her..I don't want to keep writing now..Why don't we all ask ourselves, have I ever missed an opportunity to meet a very nice person just because of preconceived notions?Am I being judgmental? Am I loosing on those n number of fantastic people just because of my notions??

एक ऊनाड दिवस..

               मला कधी कधी कळतच नाही की चांगले मराठी चित्रपट माझे कसे काय बघायचे राहतात?? मुंबई पुणे मुंबई असो किंवा सावरखेड: एक गाव..सरीवर सर असो किंवा सातच्या आत घरात..आता त्यात भर पडली आहे या चित्रपटाची..एक उनाड दिवस!!

            आज मी फार छान picture बघितला..एक उनाड दिवस..खर तर उशीराच बघितला, पण atleast बघून तरी झाला..अशोक सरफान्नी फार मस्त काम केलय यात..दाभोळकर अगदी जीवंत उभे केलेत.. तसा पाहिल तर दाभोळकर आपल्या सगळ्यासारखेच..घडयाळ्याच्या काट्याला बांधलेले.. स्वताच्या नियमंमधे स्वताच अडकलेले..

             योगायोगाने त्यांना एक दिवस मिळतो , मुखवटा बाजूला ठेवून जगण्याचा..लोक काय म्हणतील याचा विचार न करण्याचा..कधीही न केलेल्या गोष्टी करण्याचा..सामान्य माणसाच आयुष्य जगण्याचा..एक दिवस ऊनाडपणे हुन्डडण्याचा..

          ही फक्त त्या एक दिवसाची गोष्ट..त्या एका दिवसात दाभोळकरांच्या आयुष्यात किती मोठे बदल होतात..ते किती वेगावेगाल्या व्यक्तिंना भेटतात..पैसे कमी असून सुद्धा अगदी आनंदी माणस बघतात..आयुष्य १५ वर्षांनी वाढवतात!!

         मी बराच वेळ विचार करत होते, खरच आपण काय करतोय? आयुष्य चांगल घालवण्यासाठी आयुष्य जगायला विसारतोय..आपल्यातल्या दाभोळकरांना एक ऊनाड दिवस देऊन तर बघुया..एक दिवस ऊनाडपणे फिरून तर बघुया..बघुया आयुष्य वाढतय का?? आयुष्य वाढण्याच माहित नाही, पण उरलेल आयुष्य जगण्याचा नवीन दृष्टिकोण मात्र नक्की मिळेल..

        याच चित्रपटात एक छान गाण आहे..त्याबद्दल काही बोलण्यापेक्षा, ते गाणच इथे लिहिते..

        

        हुरहुर असते तीच  उरी.. दिवस बरा की रात्र बरी...

        कुठला रस्ता सांग खरा.. वळणाचा की सरळ बरा..

        जगणे मरणे काय बरे.. सुख खरे की दुख खरे..

ताई, जीजू आणि bloomington

               मागच्या आठवड्यात bloomington ला जाऊन आले. खूप खूप मज्जा केली..One of the best weekends in US. गेल्या गेल्याच इतकं छान वाटलं..अगदी घरी गेल्यासारखं!! मी तर त्या दोघांना बघूनच खूप खूष झाले होते..

मग घरी जाऊन मस्त जेवण केलं!! खूप खूप गप्पा मारल्या!!

              शनिवार आणि रविवारी तर आम्ही इतके picture बघितले!! Movie marathon almost!! अगदी nonsense comedy पासून ते 2012 , मी नथुराम गोडसे बोलतोय अशा serious नाटकांपर्यंत!! अमेरिकेवर झालेल्या ११ सप्टेंबर च्या हल्ल्याच्या documentaries पासून तर "जानकी लावण जासूस "..पण महत्वाची गोष्ट अशी कि या सगळ्या गोष्टींवर आम्ही भरपूर चर्चा केली...त्यातून आपली match सुद्धा होती..काय वाईट हरलो..शेवटची ओवर तर बघू सुद्धा नये अशी होती..सचिन ने एवढे जास्त runs करून पण काही उपयोग नाही झाला..

             लहानपणीच्या आठवणींबद्दल बोलताना तर किती वेळ गेला कळलं पण नाही..तस बघितल तर जिजूंशी  ओळख पहिल्यांदाच झाली.. लग्नात काय ओळख होणार कोणाची!! जीजून्सोबत बोलताना बर्याच बऱ्याच गोष्टिन्वर नव्याने विचार झाला..अशा अनुभवी लोकांसोबत वेल घालवला की गोष्टींचे नवीन पैलू दिसतात..सगळ्यात महत्वाची गोष्ट म्हणजे, इथे आपल्यासोबत कोणीतरी आहे ही भावना  पण खूप वेगळी अणि छान असते..

 ३ तासांचा (flight) अंतर म्हणजे फार काही नाही हे सुद्धा जाणवते..

             तिथे गेल्यावर एक कळलं, कि कितीही सुखसोयी असल्या इथे तरी परत जावसं वाटतच..ते दोघं इथं ३ - ४ वर्षांपासून राहत आहेत. इथे सगळं असूनही परत जायची ओढ आहे त्यांना..आता यात मी काही फार वेगळा विचार मांडत  आहे अशातला भाग नाही.. 

It's a marathon, not a sprint!

              I was reading this interview where Melinda Gates puts everything in those words.It's a marathon, not a sprint.My mom always says the same thing. I think Mrs Gates gives us the summary. Think about this sentence in any context, may be life, career, studies.It just applies there..It's not a sprint.In these turbulent times, one has to understand the long term consequences of whatever actions he/she is taking.More about it later.
              Lets get back to the interview. Apart from being Mrs Bill Gates, Melinda Gates is known as Philanthropist and a businesswoman. In this interview with Shine correspondent, she opens up and gives some nice insights. Apart from talking about her current projects, she spoke about work-life balance. She puts it as," I am going to do the best I can on given day"..I think she is right, sometimes we have to just give ourselves a deadline. I faced similar situation last week, the project had to end somewhere, offcourse I  can do better, but not at the cost of everything else..I think we all should understand that there is somewhere everything should have a limit.Everything should have a deadline.There is a limit to what one can do in given amount of time.
             One of the insights that stuck me from the interview is the best advice  Melinda ever received. She says the best advice she has ever received is to be herself. I think thats really a very simple thing and may be the hardest thing too..She says follow your passion.I think we all know that.But lets ask a simple question, Am I doing that? Am I really following my passion?