The overhyped phenomena of frustration

Every single time I have spoken to someone over 45 (wink) , I have always realized one thing , Frustration  is an overhyped phenomena!!

So now that I think back , I have come to realization that the frustration is definitely overhyped!  Am I a sage who is never frustrated ? I wish!! But I am equally frustrated about a million things...

Working in a challenging and demanding field, its very easy for anyone to just be frustrated and blame it all on the company, boss or even destiny for that matter... I believe its the simplest way to feel better about the situation. Trust me , I have blamed all the above mentioned entities and a million more for the frustration! Apart from temporary "victim" feeling, I haven't made any difference..

I have been fortunate enough to have amazing bosses and wonderful mentors. Pankaj has taught me one thing and I must say one of the most important lessons :) .... "Look beyond frustrations" ... Might sound very very simple to read but think about it.. Having an ability to look at any circumstances keeping the frustration piece aside is very very difficult! I think it will be life saver...

Some of us have a tendency to say "Its just the way today's world is! The jobs have changed , life has changed etc etc.." But when I listen to my parents stories, my grandparents stories.. May be the world hasn't really changed. Its the perspective that has changed!

So  next time if you are frustrated and want to scream in the traffic, quit your job , yell at the rude lady at the kiosk , throw your phone etc etc ...Just a friendly reminder , the frustration is your attitude of looking at the situation...May be the action will help but not always!

(Trust me this is coming from my most frustrated self!!)

वादळ !

गेले कित्येक तास मी वादळ अनुभवतीये … न शमणारं …. न संपणारं …. जणू निसर्गाच्या सामंजस्याचा फुटलेला बांध !
जणू काही त्याच्या असह्य वेदनांना फुटलेला कंठ …. अखंड थयथयाट … तप नु तपे जपलेल्या , शमवलेल्या भावनांना मोकळं करून दिलेलं रान … त्याचे हि प्रश्न असतील कदाचित …. काही अनुत्तरीत ! त्याचीची होत असेल घुसमट …. न सुटणाऱ्या प्रश्नांनी आणि नव नवीन आव्हानांनी …. कितीही मोठं असलं तरी त्याचही मन आहे …. दुखावलं जाणारं … त्याचं सुद्धा काळीज आहे … चिरत जाणार…. सुकले असतील त्याचे ही अश्रू ….आणि म्हणूनच हे तांडव …. न संपणारं !!

The sine wave

Yes the sine wave. I recently had an interesting discussion with a colleague on the nature of one of our projects. We are experiencing frequent highs and lows and are caught up in the drama of the sine wave. We both agreed on this but decided to take it a level above.

Instead of getting into the drama of highs and lows, why not be the central axis and limit the drama!
And thats where it occurred to me , this is true every where...

Generally the experiences we have are like sine waves , the frequency might vary but its never low forever and never high forever. The whole struggling piece comes from sliding on the curves through highs and lows...Just imagine being at the central axis and looking at the curves! It will be amusing!

Wow its so easy to write but when I think about it , it is extremely difficult to follow!